Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Flying Free is a support resource for women of faith who need hope and healing from hidden emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, and narcissistic abuse. Because of misogynistic theology taught in controlling and spiritually abusive churches, many Christian women find themselves in destructive marriages where there is an uneven power dynamic. Male partners use their status as a husband to gain power and control over a woman’s mind, emotions, body, social life, finances, and more. When she tries to get help from her equally abusive church environment, she is betrayed and re-abused. Flying Free offers a Christ-centered, gospel-oriented perspective on domestic abuse that protects and honors the voices and autonomy of women. Tune in each week to hear conversations with emotional abuse advocates and fellow survivors who will walk with you on your journey up and out. We hear you. You are not alone. Learn more at

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How Many Years Does a Christian Wife Owe Her Abusive Husband?

Would you play a card game with a cheater? Once maybe, right? Then, it’s a solid H-E-double-hockey-stick no.  What about for a month? A year? Five years? Twenty? Would you tell your daughter to play with a cheater? Your best friend? I’m gonna guess the answer is “abso-freaking-lutely not!” So

Why Don’t I Feel Close to God? Interview with Krispin Mayfield

Learning about emotional and spiritual abuse is dangerous.  You start to see patterns in your marriage, your family, your friendships, your church…and your faith. You start to understand why God often doesn’t feel safe. Why you feel like a constant disappointment. A regular failure. A busted, broken, rejection-worthy woman.  You

The Story About Your Family on the Bus (and a food fight)

I’d like to introduce you to my friend Myrtle. She’s a backseat driver. The kind you can’t ignore.  She’s MY backseat driver. And yours. Myrtle thinks she’s the help-iest thing ever.  She’s a big reason behind many of our behavior patterns. The places and ways we’re stuck. Our self-sabotage. Myrtle

My Abusive Husband Says I’m Unbiblical Unless I Reconcile with Him

“Unless you forgive and come back to me, you’re disobeying God and the Bible!”  If I were your abusive husband, I’d say the same thing. Why? Cause then I’d get what I want. Woohoo! Isn’t that what the Bible is all about?  Oh, begging your pardon. I was basing my

What Role Does Fear Play in Our Religion and Our Relationships?

“You don’t know God,” the elder leaned forward and said to me. He knew I was preparing to divorce my emotionally abusive husband. My body began to tremble. My voice shook.  I realized later that he was right. His god was vindictive and cruel, like a mythological Zeus.  The God

Stop Waiting for Your Husband to Die so You Can Live

If marriage is for life, then the only way out is death. Right?  I’ve been asked that question, or a variation of it, many times. I used to wonder that question myself.  Marriage IS for life, but not in the way you’ve been told. It’s for the sake of bringing

Why Self-Leadership is More Effective Than Being Held Accountable

How do you feel about accountability? Like it, love it, want some more of it? Or maybe it’s like medicine to you — icky but necessary. Hold on to your booty, cause I’ve got an opinion on it too.  I think it’s a made-up practice that got a “virtue” sticker