Banishing Mom Burnout

Sabra Staudenmaier

Motherhood, in theory, should be wonderful. It’s the most natural thing in the world. Every living thing on this planet has a mother! But if you’re listening to this podcast, you are likely experiencing a special flavor of motherhood, the one I’ve been in. Let’s call this version “modern motherhood.” This is the motherhood with postpartum depression, sleep training, social media, gluten, ADD, anxiety, food allergies and most recently, Covid. The sparks of many issues are out there. And without the right skills, flames will ignite. If you don’t know how to manage this, motherhood will scald and sear and can burn you alive. How do you know if you have Mom Burnout? – You feel like a servant in your own home – You aren’t taking care of your body – Your finances are not organized. You don’t have the time or energy to manage them. – You don’t feel good about your relationships with family – You engage in overeating, overdrinking, over shopping, or business to cope – Your life is hyper focused on your role as a caretaker and there is little room for your own needs – You are having a hard time with work/life balance. – You feel overwhelmed – You have a deep scary feeling that you’re lost – Underneath it all you are unhappy more of the time than you want to admit Well Moms, I’m here to tell you amazing news! There is a way out! I’ve experienced the worst of this. My burnout charred me all the way to clinical depression. I was overweight, overdrinking, and this led to … not the best conditions to care for myself or the other people in my house. But I found a way to extinguish the burn. I’ve healed relationships, I’ve lost the excess weight and I stopped drinking alcohol. I’ve also I started a business where I get to live my life’s purpose and passion while making money. In this podcast, I’m going to help you reclaim yourself so that you can get out of volcanic motherhood hell and are able to enjoy motherhood. This is not your mother’s motherhood ladies; the circumstances have changed. This one can become an inferno. But there IS a way to tame the flames. If you want to find out how, join me here in the Banishing Mom Burnout podcast! I will see you soon!

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Episodes

Ep. 8 Stress Today

In this episode I share with you a chapter from a book called Burnout written by Emily and Amelia Nagoski.  The chapter is called ”The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle”.  There are some things regarding stress that have changed dramatically over the decades and there are some things that

Ep. 7 Working Mom Guilt

Today I talk about one of the most common issues women physicians deal with: working mom’s guilt. I remember being told I could have it all, but no one told me how hard it would be to miss out on my daughters milestones and activities.  I want to share some

Ep. 6 Requests and Boundaries

In this episode, I explain the difference between making requests and setting boundaries with the people in your life.  Most of us cringe thinking about boundaries, but the opposite is true.  Knowing how to develop a boundary correctly can make your relationships more true and authentic.  I explain how to

Ep. 5 Manuals

Today I explain what a Manual is.  Yes, it’s like an instruction manual for other people.  The catch is that we believe the person needs to behave a certain way so WE can be happy.   In the end, humans have free will.  They may not always do what you

Ep. 4 Gratitude Is NOT All WooWoo

In this episode I give you all you need to know about gratitude and why it works, scientifically.  There are so many things this simple practice can improve.  Many physicians have Imposter Syndrome and low self esteem.  Having gratitude can help .  I discuss techniques ranging from simple acknowledgement to

Ep. 3 How To Say No

Today I talk about saying no. I really believe this is one of the most important skills that every physician  needs to learn to manage their burnout.  I talk about some of the reasons it is so hard to say no and give you so easy examples to use when

Ep. 2 So we do have to talk about our feelings!!

In this episode I discuss how every action we take, or don’t take, is motivated by what we are feeling at the time. I discuss the four different ways we deal with our emotions (Resist, React, Avoid, Allow).   Finally, I cover how we can learn to process our emotions. (01:48)

Ep. 1 Why I Eat Ice Cream When Feeling Anxious or Sad

In this episode I discuss the definition of buffering and how it can affect us when we feel overwhelmed or anxious. I talk about how even seemingly positive actions, like working or exercising, can be buffering. I explain how the first step is always awareness.  We dive into how our

Introduction and Welcome

In this episode I talk a little bit about my life and burnout journey. I review the current state of medicine and why you should care. I question the belief that our goal should be 100% happiness all the time. I suggest that it may be better to view events